It’s not easy to let someone go, but what really is easy, is to say that letting someone go is hard. Everyone, whether one has experienced the grief of separation or not, says it’s hard, but how hard is it, no one really knows that until and unless one experiences it. Generally girls are considered most sensitive to these situations, but sorry to disappoint, I think it’s the same for both the genders.

This bond starts when the two parties to the contract start feeling, “I never thought anyone else is like me, but I think this is the exact replica. The bond I am gonna have with him or her is a bond am never gonna have with anyone.” Then the sharing time starts. We don’t really mind sharing anything with the counterpart, our books, room, food, feelings… anything to everything. We start expecting a lot from our best buddy or our partner. This is when the real problem starts. Considering they are also humans and they have their personal life too, it is not possible for anyone to meet all the expectations. Even the slightest unexpected action of theirs cuts our heart slice by slice. A wrong word from our best friend is more painful than a punch from our enemy. Everything is a game of expectations.

Slowly, misunderstandings pop out. We don’t even realise but our relationship starts getting sour. Actually, I am wrong here. We do realise, but we are not ready to accept. Then comes the stage when the communication stops, either because we do not want to talk to them or because we do not know what more to talk about. Gradually. We realise that we had been trying to fill a cup with no bottom.

This thing has more effect on the one who has to let go rather than the one who is being let go. It’s so hard that every time we see her name somewhere around our neighborhood, it makes our heart drop, or it pisses us off because we suddenly remember all the details of all the times we spent together. It’s so hard that when we listen to the last song she told us about, it makes us want to hit the “next” button because it hurts to just hear the first note.

It ain’t easy to get into such a bond with someone, and once it enters our system, it’s harder to leave it. When finally, we can say “no” to something in her presence, we finally know we have let it go. We finally acknowledge the fact that the concept of we two together was a mere reflection of the past. It was just a life-changer, though not good for some time, but finally it is good because it teaches us lessons that nothing else ever could.

It’s never easy letting someone go, but when we do, it’s the best feeling in the world.